Stunned that an automobile accident could be considered more in conversation than a three-year-old child being raped. Stunned that the loss of a house sale could be considered more than a teenager being impregnated by their father. Stunned that folks look the other way when childhood tragedy is mentioned. Stunned that having a knock-off designerContinue reading “Stunned”

Demand An Answer

Don’t walk away from the person that abused you and say nothing. Turn to them, look them squarely in the face, and demand an answer from them. Oh, they most likely won’t give you one, but ask for it anyway. Give yourself a gift! I stayed intimidated and looked the other way for years. ThatContinue reading “Demand An Answer”

Grace, Be Still

Hear me, my God, as I voice my complaint; protect my life from the threat of the enemy. David’s opening words in Psalms 64. Words like his have changed my life. Crying out to a great big God to save me from those that were hurting me. David knew all about how harmful words canContinue reading “Grace, Be Still”

The Persuasion of the Guilty

Abusers have such a gift to persuade. Their invasiveness seems so genuine. Like an offering of love. But, their trickery is disguised and you should avoid it like the plague. I could have a sense of love and belonging to the family I came through. It would only cost me my integrity and I’d haveContinue reading “The Persuasion of the Guilty”

Too Much, Too Little, Too Late?

Can’t healing just be exhausting? Wasn’t it hard enough just living through chronic abuse? Now we’re being tasked to heal! Oh, brother. It gets old. Doesn’t it? I’ll tell you what gets older than working on healing the past – NOT healing the past. That’s a straight-up train wreck. I’m 57 years old now andContinue reading “Too Much, Too Little, Too Late?”

Soar Like an Eagle

Forgiveness is a concept that I believe gets misinterpreted. Forgiveness does not mean that you allow bad behavior to continue in your life. Forgiveness does not mean that you now insist that your abusers continue in your life. When the events of mistreatment happen at the hands of another person, please be very careful notContinue reading “Soar Like an Eagle”

Masculinity Maimed

There is a lot of talk about how childhood sexual abuse hurts a woman, destroys her worth and mocks her femininity. But, what about a little boy that comes through such tragedy? What happens when a little boy’s father is his abuser? Or his uncle? Or male cousin? How does that little boy perceive masculinityContinue reading “Masculinity Maimed”

A Stream of Confusion

Skipping rope as child has its fun and it has the brittle failure that will happen when your foot stops the rope. For every action there is a reaction, right? When children are sexually abused nothing makes sense anymore and I do mean nothing. When your father or mother crosses the barrier of protection andContinue reading “A Stream of Confusion”