The first weapon against abusive attacks when you are small is to find an area of your brain to place the bad — and, leave it there. While that is how God designed us to make it through those unsafe years, we have to change that pattern now to heal. Denial leaves a thick impenetrableContinue reading “WWW | Wellness Words Wednesday | Denial vs. Emotions”
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WWW | Wellness Words Wednesday | Contagious
When you learn how to trust your memories, they will return to you. The next time your mind tries to show you something from your past, you will allow it. It becomes contagious. What do I mean? Memories and tragedy sit inside you like a dead carcess eating away all the good. The rotting emulsionContinue reading “WWW | Wellness Words Wednesday | Contagious”
WWW | Wellness Words Wednesday | When It Feels Like You’re Losing
A verdict was given yesterday to woman in a liable suit. She won $5 million against Donald Trump. Seriously? I am so offended. Power, money and politics – seems the only thing this court system gives a care about. What about the deeply traumatized person just trying to survive? What about them? When is justiceContinue reading “WWW | Wellness Words Wednesday | When It Feels Like You’re Losing”
WWW | Wellness Words Wednesday | Find Beauty in the Moments
For Christmas one year, my beautiful grown daughters put together a box that held memories of our time together as they grew. In this glass trove they placed strips of paper that each of them had written capturing treasures I had shared with them that they now wanted me to reflect on and enjoy. SuchContinue reading “WWW | Wellness Words Wednesday | Find Beauty in the Moments”
WWW | Wellness Word Wednesday
Today’s word: Rejection. To me the deepest pain in life is all born out of rejection. What makes incest so ugly is that it is family. Family is supposed to care, nurture, protect, and love. Those words are so far from rejection. What is abuse? Childhood crimes fall squarely into these definitions. Taking both ofContinue reading “WWW | Wellness Word Wednesday”
Do You Feel Laughed At?
Entry from my journal dated May 24, 2006: The day is undetermined. The future echoes the same. Where will I be in 15years. Answers undetermined. Mine not yet to know.Will I prevail in a lawsuit against Cathy? Or silently do I subside into the side shadows. Unknown. I wrote those words 16 years, 9 months,Continue reading “Do You Feel Laughed At?”
Mirror Mirror ~ Who do you influence?
Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Who do you influence and who influences you? Coming from a lifestyle of trauma, I didn’t believe I influenced anybody. And, I didn’t believe anyone really influenced me. I couldn’t have been more wrong. The way I saw this fallen world was that there wereContinue reading “Mirror Mirror ~ Who do you influence?”
Mirror Mirror ~ Who do you blame?
Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Who do you blame for the pain in your life? Pain is defined as “physical suffering or discomfort caused by illness or injury.” Pain has a beginning. Does pain have an end? That’s an interesting question. I believe it does. Blame takes away accountability. JustContinue reading “Mirror Mirror ~ Who do you blame?”
Jewels, Gems & Gunpowder
Jewel: I am loved. Gem: I am loved. Metaphorical Gunpowder: Remind yourself today that you are loved! The little blonde girl on the left is now gone at 59. She was my childhood friend. I will miss her. She looked for love all of her life. Please remind yourself today that you are loved byContinue reading “Jewels, Gems & Gunpowder”
Mirror Mirror ~ Chasing Love
Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Do you chase a love that is not returned to you? Year upon grueling year I chased love. The love of friendship. The love of men. The love of my parents. The love of my children. The love of my siblings. The list could goContinue reading “Mirror Mirror ~ Chasing Love”