I love knowing the God of the bible. He teaches me that I don’t have to “be enough.” That I don’t have to “be good.” That I am encouraged to cry, scream, break stuff if I need to. Why? So I don’t keep bottled up in me my confusion from the past, the hurt ofContinue reading “Words of Widsom | When My Best Isn’t Good Enough”
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Scars…
We all have them. Physical scars. Emotional scars. Spiritual scars. They represent having survived a harm that has been done, a damage inflicted, but they also represent a healing has occurred, don’t they? To have a scar is not so much about what you survived, as it is about how you have healed from an affliction,Continue reading “Scars…”
It’s Deeper Than Your Mind
WWW | Wednesday Words of Wisdom | Still Not Telling Your Story?
As a child, the first thing we learn when coming through childhood tragedies is to remain quiet. Don’t tell is the very first rule we are given. The problem is we did see, we did hear and we still didn’t tell. If we are ever going to change our pasts, we have to break theContinue reading “WWW | Wednesday Words of Wisdom | Still Not Telling Your Story?”
WWW | Wednesday Words of Wisdom | Birthed for Suffering?
There is a saying that “Jesus was born to die.” If Jesus was born to die, I was birthed to suffer. I don’t recall a day in my childhood that didn’t have suffering in it. Maybe I had moments where I enjoyed something – an ice cream, a bike ride, but there was always embeddedContinue reading “WWW | Wednesday Words of Wisdom | Birthed for Suffering?”
WWW | Wednesday Words of Wisdom | What Was Stolen from You?
When we learn to articiulate what our abuse took from us, we can grieve appropriately and begin to heal. If we sit in a muck of undiscovery, never articulating what we feel, we stay stuck, unhealed and a stranger to ourselves. Why discuss it? If you were a child when these sexual crimes happened toContinue reading “WWW | Wednesday Words of Wisdom | What Was Stolen from You?”
Why Do You Get Your Past, But I Don’t Get Mine?
If people with good childhoods get to tell their story and hang onto their past, why don’t those of us with bad upbringings get the same privilege? Everyone around me gets the privilege of recalling & telling childhood memories – except for me. Everyone reminisces about the stuff that made them who they are –Continue reading “Why Do You Get Your Past, But I Don’t Get Mine?”
To the Dreary, Dead & Doubtful on this Father’s Day
May I first extend my prayer of love to you. I have known better the dread of Father’s Day than I have known anything else. I hate both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, but I always try to unlearn and retrain myself. The kindest gift my earthy father ever gave me was his death. HisContinue reading “To the Dreary, Dead & Doubtful on this Father’s Day”
Words of Wisdom | Convicting the Guilty
Convict as a verb means to find or prove to be guilty. Usually this is in a court of law before a judge and jury. What if your case never makes if before a judge and jury? The lack of conviction is devastating in the life of victims. Most victims of childhood crimes rarely seekContinue reading “Words of Wisdom | Convicting the Guilty”