We all have them. Physical scars. Emotional scars. Spiritual scars. They represent having survived a harm that has been done, a damage inflicted, but they also represent a healing has occurred, don’t they? To have a scar is not so much about what you survived, as it is about how you have healed from an affliction,Continue reading “Scars…”
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WW | Words of Wisdom | Letting Go . . . of . . . D E A T H
Suicide and death are such a common theme among incest survivors. You know why? It’s all murder, that’s why. I only saw my father a handful of times after that. He had chosen deceit and the battle between us was on. About six months before this illness, I’d dreamt that my father was milling aboutContinue reading “WW | Words of Wisdom | Letting Go . . . of . . . D E A T H”
WWW | Wednesday Words of Wisdom | FAVOR
When I lived at home with my father, I was favored. His favor included being backhanded when I showed the slightest sign of disobedience, rape, sodomy and playing the game Risk. Oh, my family envied my favor with my father. You see, growing up in a home where the only attention you receive is abuse,Continue reading “WWW | Wednesday Words of Wisdom | FAVOR”
It’s Deeper Than Your Mind
The Casualties of Having No Comfort
Abuse was the foundation of my suffering. The freeze that kept it steady was the lack of comfort I received. My parents had to be sociopaths of some kind or they would have seen the pain of their children. They would have noticed the night hours I was up in agony. They would have seenContinue reading “The Casualties of Having No Comfort”
Is God Fair?
If I were sitting in an audience waiting for the play Life is Fair to begin, I’d most likely get up and walk out. Life isn’t fair. Is God? I believe He is. God didn’t hurt me, wicked people did. The Spirit of Religion was sent to kill, steal and destroy. Incest sits squarely inContinue reading “Is God Fair?”
Unquestionable Understanding
Understanding. Understanding. Unquestionable understanding. That’s the message that God has for you! It doesn’t matter where you find yourself right now. He gets it! More importantly, He gets YOU. The pain. The confusion. The lack of ability to change. He knows. Stand still. He’s got you!
A Winnowing Fork
In its simplest form it involves throwing the mixture into the air so that the wind blows away the lighter chaff, while the heavier grains fall back down for recovery. It is the act of separating the good from the bad. Separating yourself from the bad is a necessary act when you come through aContinue reading “A Winnowing Fork”
It’s Just So Easy
Millions of us will choose not to tell our story. Deeper still, millions will choose to hide and deny their truth. It’s just so easy to walk away from the past — or is it? It breaks my heart, actually. It was not easy to tell my story. Can you imagine calling the police aboutContinue reading “It’s Just So Easy”
The Casualties of Having No Comfort
Abuse was the foundation of my suffering. The freeze that kept it steady was the lack of comfort I received. My parents had to be sociopaths of some kind or they would have seen the pain of their children. They would have noticed the night hours I was up in agony. They would have seenContinue reading “The Casualties of Having No Comfort”