I think we all would like to believe we are no longer in collusion with our abusers. That can only be true when we’ve stopped the secretive cooperation with them. This deceitful agreement we have with them keeps us quiet. I knew when I was no longer in collusion with my family. It was whenContinue reading “Collusion”

Please, Forgive Yourself, Immediately

I cannot tell you how many times I have found myself here: People who suffer from flashbacks often organize their lives around trying to protect against them. the body keeps the score, bessel van der kolk, page 67 The fog of dissociation may try to land and prevent me from enjoying my everyday life asContinue reading “Please, Forgive Yourself, Immediately”

Courage and the Coward

My father was a small man that lived like a giant. His wife adored him. I was their youngest child. Together they built a world that few ever saw into – except their children. The saddest part is that many of their children didn’t have the courage to fully look either. What is the differenceContinue reading “Courage and the Coward”