Mirror Mirror ~ Who do you blame?

Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Who do you blame for the pain in your life? Pain is defined as “physical suffering or discomfort caused by illness or injury.” Pain has a beginning. Does pain have an end? That’s an interesting question. I believe it does. Blame takes away accountability. JustContinue reading “Mirror Mirror ~ Who do you blame?”

Mirror Mirror ~ Chasing Love

Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Do you chase a love that is not returned to you? Year upon grueling year I chased love. The love of friendship. The love of men. The love of my parents. The love of my children. The love of my siblings. The list could goContinue reading “Mirror Mirror ~ Chasing Love”

Goat vs. Sheep

Goat and sheep are two different species, but both of them belong to the same Bovidae family. There are certain differences between a sheep and a goat; some of these can be seen in terms of appearance, behavior and even diet. Let’s look at some differences: Tails: Goat tails are straight while sheep tails areContinue reading “Goat vs. Sheep”

Mirror Mirror ~ Would you cultivate a relationship with your rapist?

Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Would you cultivate a relationship with your rapist? Seems like a very unlikely relationship to cultivate, right? Maybe even absurd to ask. But I can tell you this — people who come through incest do it all the time! Struggling to keep cool under theContinue reading “Mirror Mirror ~ Would you cultivate a relationship with your rapist?”

Mirror Mirror

Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Where do you see yourself in your story? Do you see yourself as a collaborator with your abuser? Did you tell yourself that you wanted the abuse in some way? Do you tell yourself that the abuse felt good? Or do you see yourself asContinue reading “Mirror Mirror”

Forgiveness Can Be Tainted

Forgiveness should create a safe distance between you and those that abused you. If you see forgiveness as reconciliation you are blending together two separate things. Let’s look at these words a little closer. What Is Forgiveness?Psychologists generally define forgiveness as a conscious, deliberate decision to release feelings of resentment or vengeance toward a personContinue reading “Forgiveness Can Be Tainted”

Abandoned, But Not Forgotten

If I didn’t honor myself by returning to my past, and bringing vindication where I could, I would have been left abandoned. I would have abandoned myself. I had to force myself to remember me. Everything around me told me to stop seeking, stop turning over rocks. “Learn to live,” they would tell me. Didn’tContinue reading “Abandoned, But Not Forgotten”