Introspection — what better way to start a week. Question: Who do you influence and who influences you? Coming from a lifestyle of trauma, I didn’t believe I influenced anybody. And, I didn’t believe anyone really influenced me. I couldn’t have been more wrong. The way I saw this fallen world was that there wereContinue reading “Mirror Mirror ~ Who do you influence?”
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Unlearning Lies
I’m doing everything in my power to stop the patterns of dysfunction inherited from past generations. Generations whose parenting was informed by the look good vs the actual good. Who abused their natural power over children and forfeited the right to have any say over the raising of this next generation. But every day, IContinue reading “Unlearning Lies”
F N’ F (Fear Not Friday)
On the discussion of fear — have you ever heard that perfect love drives out fear? In my early 20s, I began to explore the bible. I hated religion and I hated the god that my father taught me. But, I found that I needed something outside of myself. I decided I would throw awayContinue reading “F N’ F (Fear Not Friday)”
Trauma Narratives
❤️Distrusting ourselves can show up in many ways, from ignoring our intuition to not believing our own lived experiences and memories to ignoring our triggers, from not having a clear sense of our own boundaries to being disconnected from our bodies and not trusting what they are telling us. ❤️Many narratives in wellness industries asContinue reading “Trauma Narratives”
Radical Forgiveness
I am here just telling my story. I am no expert but I do have experience. Experience in learning to walk a life that is not made of make-believe, anger, hate or bitterness. I don’t have to read a good book to be brought outside of my misery. I know how to live with painContinue reading “Radical Forgiveness”
Eye of the Needle
That god had pulled her through a needles eye so narrow that this thread in front of them was all that remained. The hurt burrowed deeper than anything shed ever felt, deep enough to change from the thing she felt to the thing she was. That god had pulled her through a needles eye soContinue reading “Eye of the Needle”
Fear of Man/Woman/Persons
Fear with a capital “F” stays with survivors of incest. It was a gift given to us at breakfast, served with soup at lunch, and gluttonously given at the dinner table. Fear had to be consumed by us for these households to operate smoothly. We probably don’t believe that we operate from a fear perspective.Continue reading “Fear of Man/Woman/Persons”
Let Yourself Be Changed
Do you ever know you’re being compelled to do or say something but you ignore that deep inner feeling? Trauma, more than any one thing, can break us off from our connection with ourselves and the world around us. Often, we resist growing and listening to God when we are still stuck in the past,Continue reading “Let Yourself Be Changed”
~ Love or Shame ~
Bring one of your abusers to mind. What do you think of when you think of them? Do you write love into your story with them? Why are the abused so conformed to the notion that love exists somewhere in the abuse?
Post traumatic growth
Continuing the theme of what trauma is, and what trauma is not… I think it’s a critical differentiation as we go into this new year – new hopes, new dreams, new promises. In order to live our most meaningful and fulfilled lives, it is essential to know the difference between a trauma and an adverseContinue reading “Post traumatic growth”