I would love to hear from you! Sharing Saturday with you. Jewel: God is good. He does no wrong. Gem: The abuse that happened to me was not God’s plan for my life. To use my experience for good – that is His mighty plan. Metaphorical Gunpowder: I will not be given to distress. IContinue reading “Jewels, Gems & Gunpowder”
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On Integrity
What is integrity? Is it not smoking, swearing and not hanging out with those that do? What’s the gauge by which we measure? It surely is not judgment. Seems to me that integrity these days is the person with the strongest conviction that they are right. By whose standards are they right? If you useContinue reading “On Integrity”
Dear Mama,
Dear mama, Some days I am capable of seeing you through adult eyes. Eyes that are full of compassion and understanding. But as I read your response I feel only from my child self. I am brought back to that broken girl inside me, filled with rage and sadness. The one still begging to beContinue reading “Dear Mama,”
The Fangs of Darkness
Why do I bring up evil? It is the one thing that most counselors don’t speak of. It is not the subject of healing mantras and seldom is it recognized in trauma recovery. That doesn’t mean it’s not real and the very essence of incest. Do I love the family members that I came through?Continue reading “The Fangs of Darkness”
Mighty Foes
We leave our abusers kicking and screaming. Why is that? Shouldn’t we want to run away as fast as we can? We glorify them in our minds and say the sexual abuse was sustainable – it really wasn’t that bad. If it was family, we take it a step further and go underground so weContinue reading “Mighty Foes”
My Dearest Daughters,
Thank you for your letter last week. These are truthful and hard. Here’s my reply. I know that it’s difficult to sort through the rubble, expel the trash and keep only what is good. That’s what coming through trauma looks like. That process really can’t change but it does get easier. Being a parent, unlessContinue reading “My Dearest Daughters,”
Dear Mama
Because of my childhood, I have spent an inordinate amount of time thinking about all the things I would never do as a parent, all the ways I would be better. I had a determination to create the home life for my child that I wished I had growing up. But by the time IContinue reading “Dear Mama”
When Hell Calls
A dive into despair – that’s hell on earth. I can feel the water getting higher around my heart. My soul becomes an echo of pain. There is no escape. The only way through it is to feel it, see it, motivate it to carry on and get away from me. Despair by definition isContinue reading “When Hell Calls”
Do the Violent Win?
I don’t live my life by winning or losing but by justice and grace. In that end, do you think that violent people – you know, the strong ones who overpower the weak, win in the end? Oh, that’s right. This blog is about childhood sexual abuse (CSA) and incest. Not the violent. Wait –Continue reading “Do the Violent Win?”
Dearest Daughters,
Incest is a family affair. Each week on Mondays I’m going to writing to my daughters and share it here with you. On Thursdays, my girls will write back to me. We are The Three B’s. We hope our story brings reality, inspiration and hope to you. Dearest Daughters, Thank you for your sincere wordsContinue reading “Dearest Daughters,”
