As survivors of abuse, experiencing powerful and destructive emotions can be alarming. Most of us have been derailed by our emotions at some point. Getting pushed around by very strong emotions is common among survivors…And while it can seem counterintuitive- Getting to know and making friends with our dark sides and destructive emotions can help us transform our pain. We can’t eradicate strong emotions but what we can do is learn to allow space for them, learn to understand them (what are they trying to tell us?) and ultimately respond to them in a different way. When we do this we reduce shame associated with acknowledging & processing powerful or uncomfortable emotions. We are like jigsaw puzzles in this way, we need both light and dark pieces to be whole.