When trust is lost, traumatized people feel that they belong more to the dead than to the living.
Judith Lewis Herman’s
But we are not dead and they can’t kill us. They can rob us of our right to connection and vibrancy. Learning to trust, reconnect and love and bd loved is the only way forward. Coming alive in our hearts and minds and bodies.
Trauma isolates us; connection re-creates a sense of belonging. Trauma shames and stigmatizes; connection with others helps bear witness and offers affirmation. Trauma degrades the victim; her loved ones hold her up. Trauma dehumanizes while a sense of belonging can help restore our humanity.