Abusers are either trying to deceive you or they become your accuser. One way or the other, it is all manipulation. I’ve lived with many of them.
Abusive people want you to believe something that is not true, typically in order to gain some personal advantage. Not many people today use these old words, but we certainly should. Deception is cunning and sometimes hard to perceive. Deceivers are good at what they do — so good, most believe them.
Do these abusive people know what they’re doing? Of course they do!
If you stop believing the words of those that hurt you, guess what happens? You now become their target. They want to silence you. They will accuse you with false words and try to damage your character.
Be very careful who you let in your inner circle. If you are too young to walk away, tell someone who can help you. If you are an adult and you choose to stay by these people, please take a close look at that relationship. Without outside help, these relationships are toxic and will damage you.
What happens so often is we become paralyzed by these people. Their words intimidate us. Our anger towards them does nothing but keep that paralysis in place. Anger demands you focus on them. God is asking you to see yourself. YOU SEE YOU.
Taking your eyes off the abuser is the way to see your pain, acknowledge the damage that is in your life, and to start telling the true story.
God’s blessings to you today.