In its simplest form it involves throwing the mixture into the air so that the wind blows away the lighter chaff, while the heavier grains fall back down for recovery. It is the act of separating the good from the bad.
So many of us ache to be with our families. But, you cannot bring hell with you on a journey of healing. It just cannot work.
You will never recover your voice in families of incest. You will never find your strength and your courage will continue to be taken from you while you stand at their tables and dine with them.
A separation from abusive families members is a must. Fake forgiveness can keep you by them but it will cost you. It will take your peace, take your stability, and encourage them to mistreat you.
Forgiveness is a good thing. But, do it away from them in a safe environment. The treacherous folks that hurt you do not stop hurting you just because you have grown up. The abusive patterns remain.
To begin the road to healing it starts by taking your first step away from your abusers by putting one foot in front of the other.
God be with you! #UCU