- a painful feeling of humiliation or distress caused by the consciousness of wrong or foolish behavior: “she was hot with shame“
- (of a person, action, or situation) make (someone) feel ashamed: “I tried to shame him into giving some away”
Victims of incest or childhood sexual crimes live under the scrutiny of shame. The question is: Where was this first imposed on the child?
When you are two or three years old, how can you consciously do wrong? Isn’t the truth that we are taught wrong?
What four year old walked up to his grandpa with sexual advances?
The shame ladled into the lives of these abused children is sickening. This is not their shame to carry. It is the shame of the abuser.
A child must be taught that the vile acts of sexual predators are not something they own. The child did not do it — the abuser did! It is a distinction to make time and time again.
A victim feels the humiliation and mortification of the crimes of the abuser. They most often meld themselves together with the abuser in a state of complicity, owing the illegal activity. But, those crimes are not the crimes of the child.