Why do I bring up evil?
It is the one thing that most counselors don’t speak of. It is not the subject of healing mantras and seldom is it recognized in trauma recovery.
That doesn’t mean it’s not real and the very essence of incest.
Do I love the family members that I came through? I certainly do. And I realize that they are not my real problem. Evil is what lies beneath their surface, but just like the tip of an iceberg you can’t see that issue.
I know that my struggle is not against their flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.
If I leave the piece of evil out of the equation of my healing journey, I carry with me the very piece that can destroy me.
I no longer fear the people I came through, I know that my fear should be against the darkness my family brought with them. It is this darkness that I battle, not my family.
This is a very clear distinction.
Trauma healing talks about boundaries – a lot. And, for very good reason.
Evil people have an intention to destroy. Stop being nice. You have the job now to protect yourself and the heirs behind you.
The proverb ‘once bitten, twice shy‘ suggests that, when someone is hurt doing something, they are wary of doing it again for fear of being hurt a second time.
Why is this not true for family members? Why do we allow this shameful atrocity to continue because “they’re blood.”
Stop being nice and protect yourself.